Transfiguring Adoption earned 5 Hoots out of 5 based on how useful it will be for a foster/adoptive family. "Our adoptive children were able to relate to some facet of this book and it seemed to keep their attention from the the nine year old to the sixteen year old. Transfiguring Adoption recommends adding this book to your library for healthy conversation with your foster or adoptive family." Read their review on Transfiguring Adoption .
Transfiguring Adoption awarded "Jazzy's Quest: Adopted and Amazing" with 5 Hoots out of 5 based on how useful it will be for a foster/adoptive family. "All the kids said they could really relate to her... it's rare to find a book that is entertaining, and fun, and fiction, especially for older kids." Read their review on Transfiguring Adoption .
"Jazzy’s Quest benefits from a wonderfully engaging writing style, and lets kids know that it’s OK to be themselves. It’s particularly helpful to have a story that features – and explains! – open adoption." Read the entire review on their website.
I read aloud Jazzy's Quest to my 5-year-old son. We read it over two days. I could tell that sometimes it struck an emotional cord because he got more cuddly and wanted to lay on my lap while I read. He stopped me the first day, but I was surprised when he asked me to finish on the next. Every so often, I would ask him if he had any suggestions or things he liked. Here were his honest responses:
• "I learned that it is okay to have more than one mom and dad." (Despite knowing that he DOES have more than one mom and dad, it seemed reassuring for him to have a book tell him that this was acceptable and alright.)
• "I like that there are LOTS of different people who sing and dance because I do, too. It's okay to not all like the same things."
• This last one hit me really hard. Backstory: We have spoken a lot about how much his first mom loved him and just couldn't take care of him safely enough. He grieves that he wasn't able to live with her permanently. Also, when we were reading the book, we had one of our chickens get sick and he went with me to the vet's and I thought we were going to have to put her down. He was really confused by why we would want to make her die and we had a discussion about sometimes you do something that seems awful but it is really the best thing for the animal. (Fortunately, we didn't have to!) So his response at the end of the book was: "I like how she talks about foster care. It makes me think about how my other family really loves me even though I don't live with them. It makes me sad that I couldn't live with my first mom. But, it is kind of like how you said that even though it was sad, you were putting Chicken Bicken to sleep because you love her. That's kind of like why I couldn't live with my first mom. It was really sad, but really she loved me a lot, too."
Little kid brains make the craziest connections! I loved that he could connect how really sad things can also contain a lot of love. I also loved how he made a connection that made sense in his processing that I never could have made for him. Thank you for writing a book that gave him another outlet to process through his story well. I'm passing it on to my adult adoptee friend now and am anxious to hear her thoughts as well!